What to Write in a Bat or Bar Mitzvah Card

By Billie •  Updated: 01/11/23 •  4 min read

It is customary to send a card to a person who is celebrating their bar or bat mitzvah, and to send it to it arrives in advance of the bar mitzvah ceremony, or to bring the card with you to the ceremony or meal later.

As with most milestone birthdays, it is customary to include a gift or monetary contribution with the card as a way to celebrate the occasion and show your congratulations to the person who is becoming a bar mitzvah.

“Hey [Bar Mitzvah Boy/Girl]! Congrats on finally reaching the big 1-3! It’s time to say goodbye to childhood and hello to adulthood… or at least the appearance of it. We’re so proud of you and can’t wait to celebrate with you at your bar mitzvah ceremony and party. Just remember, with age comes responsibility… and a lot more chores. See you soon! Love, [Your Name]”

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What’s a bar mitzvah?

In case you didn’t know, a bar mitzvah is a Jewish rite of passage for boys who have reached the age of 13. It signifies the transition from childhood to adulthood and the individual’s acceptance of the responsibilities and obligations of Judaism.

The term “bar mitzvah” literally means “son of the commandment” in Hebrew, and the ceremony is held in a synagogue in the presence of family and friends. During the ceremony, the bar mitzvah boy will read from the Torah, a sacred text in Judaism, and participate in other religious rituals.

After the ceremony, it is traditional for the bar mitzvah boy to give a speech and for a celebratory meal or party to be held in his honor. In some Reform and Reconstructionist Jewish communities, girls also participate in a similar rite of passage called a bat mitzvah at the age of 12.


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