Loving Your Spouse
Your partner is the second most important person in your life (after you). But does your partner know, really know, how much you value him/her? Generally, the people who are closest to you, are the first ones you take for granted. You take yourself for granted the most often (do you pay yourself first or last when you get your paycheque?), and then you take your loved ones for granted in a narrow race to the “we’re finished” line.
Respect and appreciation exist only through your active expression of how you feel and how you think. Have you been neglecting yourself lately? Do you repeat the same old actions, habits, day in and day out, never really feeling what you know ’should’ feel good in life?
You can change all that, of course. The worse it is right now, the better it’ll get: just think, they’ll never see this coming! You write a simple note of sincere thanks, detailing a few recent and not-so-recent instances where you appreciate who they are and what they do, and they look at you with that blended look of joy and suspicion. “What do you want in return,” she/he might think. And you know what you want. You want to enjoy what you do, and share good times with the person you love, and express all those good feelings that are in you and that get stronger and pop up more often the more you openly affirm the qualities you admire in yourself and in your partner.
Perhaps you think that your partner has no clue about how to appreciate you. Well, you may be right; in which case, teach them. Show them how you like to be treated, through your example.
Be the person you would love to spend the rest of your life with. That’s the ultimate gift to yourself and to your partner. You want to be with someone who loves you, and who invests the well-spent time and effort into developing their strengths, and who has high standards for how they treat other people (starting with his/her own self). That’s hot! Being your best takes a confident plan of action and the courage to follow it through.
Often, the person who is closest to us, we take for granted the easiest. You become ‘One’ but forget to appreciate the other as yourself (or perhaps you forget to appreciate yourself at the same time…).
Regardless, you do not need to wait for a special day or occasion to show your appreciation.
The thoughtful things you do for each other mean more (sometimes suspiciously so, haha) when done at random times and for no apparent reason other than to show your love.
Find out your partner’s love language and then use the appropriate expressions to say ‘I Love You’ in their preferred ways…
Ways to Thank Your Spouse
“Let’s say you run a web site, and it’s so demanding that you run it at the cost of your marital well-being. Now you can say ‘thank you!’ to your Main Squeeze for her patience by, you guessed it, fiddling with another web site.”
“Author Nancy C. Anderson and her husband, Ron, recently celebrated their twenty-ninth anniversary. Together they conduct couples’ retreats and marriage seminars as they encourage couples of all ages and stages to fall deeply ‘in like’ with each other.”