The Necessary Apology Letter to Your Girlfriend

By Billie •  Updated: 12/07/21 •  12 min read

Asking for forgiveness and then living that higher standard is a necessary part of taking responsibility as an adult. Everybody does things they regret at one time or another, and if you value those warm moments together in the early morning and sharing stories you’ve never told another soul, then honour your relationship accordingly and show your girlfriend the highest respect.

Writing a heartfelt letter of apology is not something you should rely on as a get-out-of-jail-free card to excuse your habit of offensive behaviour, however.

These apology letter templates are to help you arrange your thoughts and to take responsibility for the current state of your relationship for forgetting a birthday, or just to say sorry for forgetting to pick up the milk, although that might be a little over the top for such a small oversight.

And occasional mistakes, poorly executed breakups, cheating, ignoring your girlfriend’s needs, are all things worth apologizing for in a letter. A letter may not fix the situation, but it can open up an honest conversation with your girlfriend.

Dear [Girlfriend],
I am writing to apologize for my behavior the other night. I know that I hurt you and I am deeply sorry for that. My actions were thoughtless and selfish and I understand if you are feeling hurt and betrayed right now.
I want you to know that I am truly sorry for the pain I caused you and I am committed to making things right. I promise to be more considerate and thoughtful in the future and to make sure that I am always acting in your best interests.
Please know that I love you and value you deeply. I will do everything in my power to make it up to you and to regain your trust.
Sincerely, [Your Name]

What to Write in An Apology Letter to Your Girlfriend

Ultimately, the best apology is one that you feel.

If you have contributed to emotional hurt, your girlfriend may feel as though she is not important in your life. When you write your apology letter to her, it is your chance to express the beauty she brings into your life. In fact, instead of writing a letter of regret, write about all the things that you love about her and why she brightens up your life.

If you are truly at a loss for what to write, you can start your letter by acknowledging her hurt and validating her feelings.

  1. If true, tell her how sorry you are and that you want to make things right.
  2. Always be honest. Let her know how important she is to you.
  3. Finally, ask her for forgiveness and if there is anything that you can do to prove to her that it won’t happen again.

A simple formula for writing an apology letter to your girlfriend:

  1. State what happened.
  2. State how what happened affected your girlfriend, and acknowledge her experience.
  3. Ask for forgiveness and offer productive solutions you can commit to.
  4. DO NOT MAKE EXCUSES for what happened.

Examples of What to Say in an Apology Letter to Your Partner After Doing Something You Regret

The anatomy of an apology letter is: say sorry; say why you’re sorry; make amends; ask forgiveness. Do not offer an explanation at any point in the letter. The purpose of your apology in this context is not to defend your behaviour, but to acknowledge how your actions were damaging to your relationship and to take ownership. And to make sure not to repeat such poor judgment.

A good start:

Apology Examples For Being Deceitful & Lying to Your Girlfriend

How to Start an Apology Letter to Your Girlfriend After a Fight (Hurt Feelings, Regretful Words)

Apology Letter to Girlfriend for Cheating

Taking 100 percent responsibility for the situation you are in, is the first sign of a mature and powerful person. Own it all — don’t make yourself into a victim. Once you own something, you can change it.

Apology Letter for Strain in Long-Distance Relationship

Dear [Girlfriend],

I am writing to apologize for the strain that my distance has put on our relationship. I know that being apart has been difficult for both of us and I am deeply sorry for any pain or frustration that I have caused you.

I understand that it can be hard to maintain a long-distance relationship and I want you to know that I am committed to making things work. I promise to do everything in my power to stay connected with you and to make sure that we are always there for each other.

I may not always find the right words to express my love and affection for you, but please know that you are constantly on my mind and in my heart. You are an incredibly special and important person in my life and I am grateful to have you by my side.

I hope that you can find it in your heart to forgive me and to give me another chance to show you how much you mean to me. I am optimistic that we can work through this and come out even stronger on the other side.


[Your Name]

More Apology Letter Examples:

Sorry to Family for Poor Behaviour (Stealing, Lying, Drugs)

Writing a Heartfelt Apology Letter to a Friend

Workplace Apology Letter Examples (Boss, Coworker, Customer)

Get Out of the Dog House:

Classy Ways to Say I Love You With All My Heart

Show Her Love and Appreciation in Words (Make Her Smile)


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